Marvin King (via daianayumi)

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All He Ever Needed (Shannon Stacey)

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Derek Shepherd - Grey’s Anatomy
MEREDITH: "What did I say?"
DEREK: "Seriously."
MEREDITH: "Seriously."
DEREK: "Seriously."
MEREDITH: "Seriously, we're taking it slow."
DEREK: "I can take it slow. I can take it incredibly slow."
MEREDITH: "We're taking it slower than that! We're starting fresh!"
DEREK: "And starting fresh means no sex, because..."
MEREDITH: "Because we started with sex last time, and it didn't go very well. Plus the waiting is fun, and we need fun. From now on I want to be bright and shiny."
DEREK: "Mmm... bright and shiny, huh?"
~Grey's Anatomy

onlinecounsellingcollege:

1. They can’t be trusted. No matter what you say, they’ll turn the situation round so they seem like they’re a victim, and have been unfairly judged.

2. They leave you feeling crazy, or mixed up and confused. They’ll twist your words and motives so you feel misunderstood - and they rationalize their actions so you seem unreasonable.  

3. They’re great at making you feel guilty or “bad”. Nothing you can do or say is ever right to them. No matter what you try, you know it always will be wrong.

4. They are passive aggressive. They’ll smile to your face and they’ll stab you in the back … and they’ll gladly talk about you … and pass along mean gossip.

5. They have the ability to manipulate the emotional climate in a group. So, if they’re feeling happy, and life is going well, they’re the life of the party and everyone must smile. But when their life is tough then they’ll moan, groan and complain … and they’ll make sure everybody feels miserable as well.

6. They are self-absorbed and a law unto themselves. Life is always by their rules - and everything revolves round them. They’re not accountable - and they will always please themselves.

Dagmara Dominczyk,(Mercedes) - The Count of Monte Cristo (via queenofdenial)
Justin Chambers,(Massimo) - The Wedding Planner (via queenofdenial)

psych-quotes:

Generally speaking you should be yourself and be able to say whatever you want when you’re in a relationship. But exercise caution and never find yourself uttering these lines if you don’t want to end up in the doghouse: 

1.      “My ex always used to do __________”. They don’t want to hear about how your ex used to cook for you all the time. Or how they worked out every day. Or anything about them at all, really.

2.      “You’re like a brother/sister to me”. Major romance killer. You are not siblings, so steer clear of any familial comparisons.

3.      “Why can’t you be more like ________?” Don’t compare your partner to someone else or expect him or her to live up to someone else’s standards. No one wants to hear that you think someone else is doing something better than they are.

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Meredith Grey - Grey’s Anatomy
Dr. Wyatt - Grey’s Anatomy

theangrytherapist:

Holding vs grabbing relationships.

There is you, your partner, and the relationship.  Three separate pieces.  Most don’t see three pieces.  They see two, them and their significant other.  That’s it.  With this mindset, the focus is only on them and the partner.  It’s a dyad, which can easily become a tug of war.  When we are unaware of the relationship as it’s own separate piece, it’s easy to just grab and pull the rope.   Taking, wanting, controlling, manipulating, desperately trying to mold the person into our idea.  Since there’s just two of us, it’s easy to see it as a game of win or lose.  The by product of this behavior is what I call “grabbing” the relationship.    

If we see the relationship as a separate identity, one that we truly care about, it becomes a system.  Now there’s another element at stake, something that’s greater than the parts (you and him/ her).  With this mindset, it’s easier to hold instead of grab.  Holding means to support, embrace, respect, wanting the best for the relationship and doing everything within your power to make that happen.  It’s our mindset with our children.  We consider their needs before ours and will gladly sacrifice our own needs to give them what they need to grow and prosper.  

If we see our relationship as a separate identity, like our children, we will give our partner more space.  We will let go.  We will stop trying to control.  We will respect.  We will drop the rope because there’s something bigger at stake, the relationship.

If you changed your mindset to holding your relationship instead of grabbing it, what would that look like?  How would that manifest in the way you treat your partner?  

Imagine if everyone had this mindset. 

- Angry   

Catherynne M. Valente (Palimpsest)

queenofdenial:

letstalkequality:

katoleary:

  • Know that her opinions come from experiences you have not had, and can never fully understand.
  • Do not use this as a reason to dismiss her opinions; use this as a way to attempt to understand them.
  • Give more consideration than you normally would when you are in a situation where you are the privileged one. No, this isn’t “special treatment.” It’s attempting to compensate for the fact that, like it or not, you have been socialized to unconsciously devalue the opinions of those who are not like you. So take a step back, and think really hard about it. We’re talking about your girlfriend, anyway; you should be affording her special consideration in the first place, because you respect her enough to want to be her partner — right?
  • You can still disagree. Privilege doesn’t mean that your opinions and experiences must be erased, or that they cease to be valid.
  • However: step carefully. If you think over things carefully, and decide that you know what, you just can’t agree with what she’s saying: make sure you are very careful in how you express that. Because, again, in our society, men are taught not to treat women as equals, but to dismiss them as hormonal, emotional, overreacting, irrational, etc. Even if you aren’t thinking those words, you may be communicating them to her when you huff, roll your eyes, fold your arms, smirk, etc. (And she has been taught to be very sensitive to those words or the implication of them, so trust me, she will catch the slightest hint of them, whether you intend to give that hint or not.) Your inflection and body language, and even words outright, may be telling her that, basically, you don’t give a shit. And a lot of the time, men actually don’t give a shit. So she may not be wrong when she gets that vibe from you. And depending on any number of factors, she may call you on it — or she may bury it inside, because she knows that if she reacts to it, you’re going to shoot her down, because most people honestly don’t want to admit that they don’t care about their partner’s feelings and opinions — even when they really don’t.
  • SO: think hard before you open your mouth. And watch your body language when you are in an argument. You may be angry, but you need to make an effort to show that even though you two are not happy with each other right this minute, you still care about her.
  • DON’T just say “OK” to anything she says, either because you are trying to compensate for privilege or because you’re trying to get her to shut up (trust me, she knows it — you’d be better off being honest on that matter, so she can call you on your disrespectful bullshit). That’s not respect. Quite the opposite. That’s failing to consider her argument at all — just bypassing it altogether. And that shit is just madmaking, and I wouldn’t blame her if she dumped your ass if you practiced it regularly.
  • Remember that you are not in a contest. You are in a discussion. You are trying to work WITH your partner, not AGAINST her. When it’s a straight-out fight, you are trying to understand each other’s sides, and come to an agreeable conclusion for the both of you — which won’t happen if you’re just trying to “win.” When it’s a topical conversation, you’re sharpening your thinking and communication skills, working on understanding each other’s viewpoints, learning from one another, etc. — again, it’s not a contest you’re trying to “win.” It’s a conversation. Treat it that way.
fuckyeahtvpicspam:

Dr. Cox: Relationships don’t work the way they do on television and in the movies: Will they, won’t they, and then they finally do and they’re happy forever — gimme a break. Nine out of ten of them end because they weren’t right for each other to begin with, and half the ones that get married get divorced, anyway. And I’m telling you right now, through all this stuff, I have not become a cynic, I haven’t. Yes, I do happen to believe that love is mainly about pushing chocolate-covered candies and, you know, in some cultures, a chicken. You can call me a sucker, I don’t care, ‘cause I do.. believe in it. Bottom line.. is the couples that are truly right for each other wade through the same crap as everybody else, but, the big difference is, they don’t let it take ‘em down. One of those two people will stand up and fight for that relationship every time, if it’s right, and they’re real lucky. One of them will say something.

Scrubs 1.15 - “My Bed Banter & Beyond”
(via sleepyjean)


I will always reblog this, one of my fave eps and quotes.

fuckyeahtvpicspam:

Dr. Cox: Relationships don’t work the way they do on television and in the movies: Will they, won’t they, and then they finally do and they’re happy forever gimme a break. Nine out of ten of them end because they weren’t right for each other to begin with, and half the ones that get married get divorced, anyway. And I’m telling you right now, through all this stuff, I have not become a cynic, I haven’t. Yes, I do happen to believe that love is mainly about pushing chocolate-covered candies and, you know, in some cultures, a chicken. You can call me a sucker, I don’t care, ‘cause I do.. believe in it. Bottom line.. is the couples that are truly right for each other wade through the same crap as everybody else, but, the big difference is, they don’t let it take ‘em down. One of those two people will stand up and fight for that relationship every time, if it’s right, and they’re real lucky. One of them will say something.

Scrubs 1.15 - “My Bed Banter & Beyond”

(via sleepyjean)

I will always reblog this, one of my fave eps and quotes.